The Gift of Literacy
From Freepik
By Mark W.F. Condon, Unite for Literacy vice president
A dear old friend of mine is extremely ill, unable to do much more than sleep and walk a few yards every hour or so. I’ve been contemplating how can I support him to communicate my care and concern. I’ve decided to buy him a delightful book that he can enjoy.
Gifting a book that is well suited to its recipient is natural for book-loving adults to do. However, the gifting of a book to a sick friend or for a birthday is not a natural activity for children—at least not until we show them both “the how and why” of such generosity. Children can benefit from watching us select a special book, along with an explanation about the motive behind our action.
For example, “I’m looking for a book that Uncle Kevin will enjoy, one that will give us something to talk about as he is getting better. Can you help me think of what kind of book he might like?”
And allowing kids to hear us discuss our goals and intentions with a bookstore clerk recruited to assist us in our search can underscore how vast and varied bookstores’ offerings are, and how meaningful book gifts can be.
“I’m looking for a book about the native peoples of southwestern United States for my brother. Can you suggest a few good reads?”
Conversations like these communicate that books have special, lasting value. By sharing our intentions, we can focus children upon the rich possibilities of each book option. As a book is chosen, we can share with children our hopes for the impact of the gift on our friend.
“This book should help Kevin feel better! He really enjoys history and the Southwest.”
Also, children should be involved as we demonstrate why and how to add a written inscription on the inside cover of the book. It could be something as simple as, “We hope you feel better soon,” or “I’m reading this, too. Let’s talk when you are ready,” or as personal as “I’m glad you’re getting the help you need. Can’t wait to spend time with you!”
Now it’s time to deliver this thoughtfully selected gift. Invite kids to, “Watch Uncle Kevin’s face. I’ll bet he’s going to love this book!” As their Uncle unwraps the gift, it’s clear from their faces that they understand the impact of such a gift. Over time, children will come to appreciate that long into the future, after a book is read and finds a home on Kevin’s bookshelf, it will serve as an icon of love, lively conversation, and friendship for both of us.